This week I went to see a performance by a pianist / singer of whom I’m a fan. For this story we will call this person Sansa (maybe I’ve been watching too much Game of Thrones?). I had never seen Sansa in person before, but I have a few records which I really enjoy. The performance was great – I liked the music and I liked her personality on stage. All in all I was having a great time.
After the show I waited in line with other fans to meet her. When it was my turn I told Sansa how much I liked her show and her music. Then I asked her if she would take a picture with me. She said “No.” Let me repeat: She said “No” to a picture with a fan. And then walked off. Granted, I was the last person in the line, but…I was, I AM, flabbergasted. Why did she say no to a picture?
First of all, that made me feel horrible. I was having a great time and enjoying her music; I wanted to meet her because I admired her. I wanted to have my picture taken with her because 1) I like pictures, 2) I like her, sooo 3) Let’s have a keepsake of our meeting! Why not? I think it’s very natural to want to meet the person when they’re off stage if you have enjoyed what they were doing ON stage. When she said no and walked off, I felt totally dejected. I had intended to come back and see the show again, but now I’m not sure I will, since I left with such a negative feeling.
And then, after feeling horrible, I felt upset.
My perspective on this situation is a little different because I know what it’s like to be in her shoes (to a certain extent. She is famous and much older, so I’m sure her perspective is different than mine). I know sometimes I am tired, or moody, or my feet hurt, or I just don’t feel like talking – but I think it is part of the job to get out among the people and be with them and share time with them. In my mind if people come out and spend their money to see me perform, I am thankful. I want to meet them and show appreciation. I can’t make music without a community of people who will come out and see my shows. I want to make people feel good while I’m ON stage and OFF.
Maybe I am being too harsh in my criticism of her behavior, but it really did hurt my feelings as a person and as a fan of her music. I don’t think I’ll be buying anymore of her records.
Has this ever happened to you? What do you think of it?